One thing I’ve noticed since I started Procrastination Coach, is that everybody procrastinates. Some seldom, some often. Some have their lives devoured by it, for others it’s just a slight nuisance. But everybody knows what procrastination is, and has experienced it first hand.
Feelings about procrastination
I feel the need to stress this, because of the second thing I noticed: that so many people are embarrassed about it. Ashamed. Or angry with themselves. They think it’s stupid to procrastinate, and feel stupid for doing it. They have self blame going on: “I should be able to not do this. I should be able to control myself more, I should be…”.
Causes of procrastination
If you’re one of those people, I may have good news for you. Procrastination has many different roots. Like biological roots. Your genetic inheritance, your body and your brain influence whether you procrastinate and how much. Social environments play a role in it: your family history, the culture you’re living in, your social relationships. For example, people with low self esteem are more likely to procrastinate, because they have low confidence in succeeding. Can you see how environment influences people’s self esteem?
This example points towards another root of procrastination: emotions. Feelings like doubts and fears, but also hopes, memories and dreams. And I haven’t even mentioned how people perceive time, another root…
Where to start?
Procrastination is probably more intricate than you ever imagined. So where is the good news? You may feel that it looked easier when you thought it was ‘just’ you. Now that there turns out to be a field of roots, where do you start weeding? And no, I’m not going to suggest you’ll all have to hire a procrastination coach as a gardener 🙂 I think it’s a good idea to start looking at your garden before you do anything. The exercise I posted last week, could be a good place to start.
Do not be ashamed
There is no reason to feel shame when you’re procrastinating. So it’s time to be nicer to yourself. Is there any embarrassment, shame, self blame, anger or criticism you can let go off? Keep your frustration though. It may be a helpful guide or a driving force for a while. You’ll need perseverance to get out of your old habits and form new ones.