I promised myself…
Accountability basically means that somebody does what they are supposed to do. In coaching, that something is a promise that people made to themselves: this is what I will do. You don’t need a coach to have an accountability relationship. It can be anybody, provided they are interested in your well being and willing to work with you.
How do you make an accountability relationship work?
The most effective accountability relationships are consciously designed. Designed to make them work. A mutual accountability arrangement for example, will typically address these questions.
- How often will we be in touch?
- How? (mail, Skype, etc.)
- What are we holding each other accountable for (this could be a different thing each time, and different subject matter)
- How will we be around finishing a task (my suggestion is celebrate, definitely not just step over it). One person may ask for something different than the other, you both get to design what you like for you.
- How do you want the other to be when you’ve NOT done your task? (be honest, to yourself as well…!)
- Will you contact the other as soon as you notice you’re not doing what it takes, to get support before the deadline?
- And anything else you can design to create the best support for you.
Who would be my best partner?
For some people it works really well to ask somebody close by, like a partner or a friend. For other people someone a bit further away works out better, because they are more neutral. This might make them more able to be tough when you need it, and understanding when that works best.
If you have any questions, please comment below. For now I’d like to finish with a question: where could accountability help you out?