Done is more fun than perfect

Posted on Sep 20th, 2016 - 2 Comments

Of course I know the official slogan is 'done is better than perfect'. But let's face it: if you're a perfectionist, you prefer perfect. Perfect IS better no matter what practical people try to tell you. But... We might be willing to admit that perfect isn't fun. There comes a point when our effort to make something perfect becomes a struggle. We keep on keeping on, but the perfect results just doesn't seem to get close enough to reach. Live footage: imagine me at this very moment struggling with the key word instructions on Wordpress, loosing all my interest in writing this post. If you find it hard to stop working on something, you may want to try fun as an indicator: are you still enjoying it as much as you did before? If so: continue. If not: stop for a moment, and wonder how…

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Conflicting promises

Posted on Aug 23rd, 2016 - 0 Comments

Too often we promise ourselves things that conflict, without noticing it. “I'm going to take better care of myself this week”. Combined with “Nothing is more important now than reaching this deadline” Guess who gets beaten up in the fight between these promises? Often it's you. You'll blame yourself for not reaching one goal, or the other. Which conflicting promises have you made yourself this week? I've actually been doing this all morning. The weather is beautiful, I wasn't feeling too happy (I've been having health issues) so I promised myself I'd go outside and have some fun today. Instead, I've created a quick sale. I planned to work on it for about ten minutes, and now, it's 2,5 hours later. Obviously, after writing this post it will be 3. But the weather is still…

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Positive psychology against procrastination

Posted on Oct 28th, 2015 - 0 Comments

Oh, I'm excited! I've just read about new scientific proof that positive psychology works against procrastination. Or, to be more precise: elements of positive psychology can be really effective in dealing with procrastination. Tested on students who procrastinated on studying. Are you still with me? It's good news, especially for people who doubt they'll ever be able to deal with their procrastination. It's possible. And it can even be a positive experience. I'm also excited for more personal reasons. For one, the method they used really ties into my style of coaching (co-active coaching). Looks like I'm doing the right things! Which I knew, but it's nice to know that science knows too 😉 Another one is that they included coaching in the scientifically tested approach. They…

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How to tame your procrastination monster

Posted on Sep 3rd, 2015 - 3 Comments

The next Get it Done Week, starting September 7th, is called "Tame your procrastination monster". I wondered what would happen if you apply the wisdom of taming dogs to procrastination. Here's the result, with thanks to http://www.wikihow.com/Tame-a-Dog. There's some serious wisdom in there. It’s natural and healthy for procrastination monsters to be energetic and alert. It’s not natural for them to be so energetic or aggressive that they are destructive and control your life. Yet, because it’s also not natural for them to live indoors and to be a part of human families, procrastination monsters need a strong and patient leader to teach them how to behave – you. Thus, it requires learning on both sides. This article will discuss ways to help tame aggressive and non-aggressive…

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Pair up with somebody who gets things done

Posted on May 22nd, 2015 - 4 Comments

People who procrastinate tend to want to hide it. Many people are ashamed of their non-productive behaviour, and don't want other people to know about it. Which is very understandable. Unfortunately, it doesn't help. It might even make it worse. Nobody likes to hide in shame, so the feeling invites distracting activities. Like watching funny clips on Facebook. Or checking your e-mail for interesting messages. Or playing a game on your phone. Anything that makes you think of other things. In the mean time, the work doesn't get done. And the bad feeling secretly doesn't go away. It just hides - to pop up later and ruin another day. One way to step out of this vicious cycle is to pair up with somebody who get things done. Pairing up can be done in many different ways. You can…

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Procrastination is (not) a habit

Posted on Apr 29th, 2015 - 3 Comments

Often when you read about procrastination, the writer will say it's a habit. I tend to disagree. I believe the tendency to procrastinate is (partly) innate.  The part of  giving in to the tendency, THAT's the habit. Procrastination often functions as a flight mechanism. It takes us away from things we don't like or things we (unknowingly) fear. An unpleasant task lights up the same part of our brain as pain does. The instant gratification part of us stimulates us to give in to the short term impulse, and ignore the long term thinking. There's always tomorrow... But we all know tomorrow is always a day away, and it makes sense to get a grip on procrastination. To get back our freedom of choice. Do I want to do this now? Or is it REALLY better for me to do it later? If so,…

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My most boring tip against procrastination

Posted on Apr 15th, 2015 - 0 Comments

Are you ready for the most boring anti-procrastination tip I can give? Here it comes.... Get enough sleep! It won't help against ALL forms of procrastination. But it helps against the type of procrastination when both your body and your mind tell you they want you to take it easy. This type of procrastination is often disguised as task aversiveness: not wanting to do a specific task (not today at least), not wanting to do boring tasks, not willing to persevere - because it's all so tough, etc. Mind you, you cannot turn this idea around: not all task aversiveness is caused by being tired. Not at all. If you're tired, you're often more likely to procrastinate. And you think you SHOULD work, you're stuck between a rock and a hard place. You either do something you think relaxes you…

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Self love against procrastination

Posted on Mar 4th, 2015 - 6 Comments

"Underlying unmet needs are the motivators for the actions we take." Tamara Laporte talks about shame and guilt, and how these emotions are harmful instead of helpful. She's not talking about procrastination, but all procrastinators know something about shame and guilt. Usually more than they care for. Low self esteem is a well known contributor to procrastination. It makes people believe they can't do something, or fear that doing something will be hard. They underestimate their capacities, and avoid activities. Procrastination contributes to their low self esteem, so there's a vicious circle happening. I'm sharing Tamara's video here, because I know her work can help. This video is part of her Self love TV on YouTube. If you like her style (I do!) she runs a free online course…

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The Next “Get it Done Week” starts 4th May 2015

Posted on Feb 26th, 2015 - 1 Comment

Join Get It Done Week at Procrastination Coach. Learn how to get unstuck and get yourself into gear. Fab reviews at the bottom of this post:) From Monday to Friday, the daily tasks will help you get your things done AND learn how to deal with procrastination at the same time. We'll be searching for what works for YOU, there are no prescribed models involved. Work with a supportive group who know why 'just do it' doesn't work. Or you can work alone if that's your preferred style. Imagine a project that you struggle with or that you avoid. Decluttering, art work, your administration, writing a book, self care, fixing a leaking roof, anything goes. And now picture yourself at the end of the week, stunned and satisfied. You look at your project and it's done! Or at least you've made…

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Is it easy to forget your goals?

Posted on Sep 29th, 2014 - 0 Comments

Coaches and trainers work with goals a lot. They ask their clients to: choose goals define them positively make them SMART link them to their personal values Until two hours ago, I thought that all that work on goals would make them difficult to forget. It's what YOU choose, it's what YOU want, it's what YOU put energy into to define clearly. How can you forget that? Well, easily, it turns out. I had noticed this in clients already. But it didn't fully dawn upon me until it happened to me. Let me tell you abit about my story to explain. There's something I've been trying to hide from you for months, and that's that I have been dealing with fatigue issues. I didn't want to share it because I felt it would be bad for business. Who would want to hire a coach who's tired?…

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Procrastination is (not) funny

Posted on Sep 17th, 2014 - 0 Comments

I put a wink in the title of my new workshop. I did.  And it made me WORRY. Luckily I had a deadline and I had to decide quickly. Otherwise, I could've spent hours making the decision. Revising it. Making it again. And revising it again. Decision making is my number 1 procrastination thing at the moment. I'm afraid to make mistakes. So what's so scary about putting a wink in a workshop title? Well, nobody ever does that. It is not common.  So people might think all kinds of things about me: that I'm childish, weird, whatever. (Strange, when you try to write out a worry that's in your head it sometimes becomes a lot smaller. Was this all that I was thinking? Wow, I could've spend less time on that then). For me, this whole decision making process procrastination tendency (please…

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The History of Procrastination Coach

Posted on Jun 19th, 2014 - 2 Comments

I just giggled a lot. My web designer posted my struggle from a black and white website to what I have now, with a slide show of things we said 'no' to. As a former historian I totally love this…

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I’ll do anything to avoid planning

Posted on Feb 19th, 2014 - 7 Comments

This week I have public accountability going on with a lovely visitor of my Facebook page. We were talking about how difficult it can be to keep the focus, and how planning helps. But that it can be SO difficult to keep to your planning. So we agreed to observe ourselves, to find out what was going on at the moments we digressed from our planning... In case of drowning: plan! What I liked tabout the plan, is that it would help me plan more. I work freestyle as much as I can, and only use planning when I think I need it badly. In case of drowning: plan! Which, as you can guess, doesn''t work out well. I'm supposed to use planning to keep me from drowning in the endless  sea of tasks and chores. So, I planned to plan. And found out it was a recipe for procastination. Big time.…

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My first newsletter, what do you think?

Posted on Feb 12th, 2014 - 14 Comments

Sometimes the hard part about controlling procrastination is that you don't even know you're doing it... I've just returned from a walk outside, on a beautiful, sunny and cold winter day. I'm really proud of myself that I did it before I started my working day. I tend to procrastinate on self care: work first, me later. I know this, so I'm working on it. I know I feel so much better after a walk and some fresh air. I even have a work related excuse if I need it: I get lots of creative ideas when I'm walking. Insight This time I got an insight: I'm procrastinating on writing a newsletter for you. You may have read my blog post where I explain my relationship with newsletters. I guess that's one thing that was holding me back. But I had more things going through my head, I realised…

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The scary Pay What You Want model

Posted on Feb 6th, 2014 - 7 Comments

I've been practically yelling at online friends "Don't do it" if they suggested they wanted to try out the Pay What You Want model. I've heard so many disappointing stories about it, of people who hardly made any money, felt seriously undervalued, or both. Then I read this blogpost by Tom Morkes. He made me curious... So I got thinking. My next free e-course will start on January 3. It will be free for the last time. And think I might change it from free into the Pay What You Want version. The timing is too short to follow up on all Tom Morkes tips, but I'd like to set it up for success anyhow. Here are some of the things I'm wondering about: 1) Will I ask people to pay when they sign up, or afterwards? 2) Shall I suggest an amount, or leave it up to everybody to decide for…

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How do you design accountability?

Posted on Jan 15th, 2014 - 14 Comments

I promised myself... Accountability basically means that somebody does what they are supposed to do. In coaching, that something is a promise that people made to themselves: this is what I will do. You don't need a coach to have an accountability relationship. It can be anybody, provided they are interested in your well being and willing to work with you. How do you make an accountability relationship work? The most effective accountability relationships are consciously designed. Designed to make them work. A mutual accountability arrangement for example, will typically address these questions. How often will we be in touch? How? (mail, Skype, etc.) What are we holding each other accountable for (this could be a different thing each time, and different subject matter) …

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Even procrastination coaches procrastinate

Posted on Dec 31st, 2013 - 15 Comments

Oh yes, we do. I guess that's what makes us good at procrastination coaching. We know procrastination first hand. And second hand too 🙂 Making videos - take 1 My most desperate case of procrastination has been creating videos. It started well. I did two, inspired by a course on creating a blooming  business. Actually, the first one was just a camera test, that was never intended to go public. But I liked the spontaneity of it, and I like to challenge myself. So I put it in a blog, and put it on YouTube. (Right now I'm challenging myself to embed it here) Done 🙂 Shame on me I made a second video, and I put it on the homepage of my site. I didn't think it was good enough yet, but as a recovering perfectionist I decided to publish it anyway. In rational effectiveness…

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I’m proud to be a coach

Posted on Dec 17th, 2013 - 24 Comments

The word coaching gets a lot of rolling eyeballs. And yawns. At network meetings people politely don't sigh. "A coach? How interesting. I just met 5 other coaches." The term coaching is used so broadly that you probably can get clip your toenails coaching these days. Yet, I'm proud to be a coach. I think I was in secondary school when I first read about coaching. I was totally impressed with what I read. And I hoped that one day, when I grew up, I would work in a company that would let me be coached. It seemed a great way to learn, to grow, to change your life. The people who talked about it had become happier and wiser. And the company paid for them. Coaching was for CEO's and high potential people back then, not for normal human beings like me.* Nowadays, you can call anything…

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I used to tell myself I didn’t care

Posted on Dec 11th, 2013 - 19 Comments

I've been working with procrastination for a few years now, but I keep making new discoveries. About procrastination, but also about me. I just had a Eureka moment. I've been fooling myself for a long time. Nice and dusty? I used to tell myself I don't mind a dusty house. I was convinced it was true, until we hired a cleaner. I enjoyed my clean house enormously, time and time again. I noticed I didn't like it at all when our cleaner missed a week. My house got DIRTY! So much for my illusion that I didn't care. Mind over matter? I used to tell myself that content matters a lot more to me than looks. As long as my website looked good enough, I was satisfied. That lasted until Lisa Cole from Naked Website started designing for me. I was stunned at the results. They even made…

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Procrastination Poem

Posted on Dec 6th, 2013 - 0 Comments

I just found and lost this great procrastination poem. A good reason to publish it here: If I put off until tomorrow, That which I could do today, I will have more time today, For doing other things, or, That is to say The stuff that I would rather do Anyway. Which is the kind of stuff that may Not appear important today, Until viewed with hindsight Tomorrow. Because, you can never say, What may, or may not, Be hot to trot today, Until another day, or two, may Have passed, in such a way As to make prevarication, O.K. It originally linked to this site:…

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Goal Setting: Excuses, Procrastination and Self-doubt…..Oh My!

Posted on Dec 5th, 2013 - 0 Comments

Reblogged from Brandnu-ista Blog: Ah, the dreaded goal setting, it’s not our favorite thing to do but the benefits we reap far surpass the angst.  Yep, I know that sometimes things get in the way of completing your goals like your tired, you’ll do it tomorrow and maybe your just not cut-out for this sort of thing.  Wrong, wrong and more wrong! Research shows that you are 50% more likely to complete a goal when you plan out action steps and… Read more… 656 more words Here's a practical blog on die hard goal…

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Procrastination

Posted on Dec 4th, 2013 - 1 Comment

Reblogged from Baldypoems I sit with pen and paper but then recall, I must do the dishes, another stall, Check the mail and do the washing up, I fancy tea; I’ll have a cup, Vacuum round and tidy the mess, So many things to do, the stress! I’ll pop to the shop for bread and butter, I rush round like a complete nutter, Sweep the kitchen floor, make the bed, I should be writing but I clean instead, Dust the shelves, call my mum, Then Gran and goodness!  I’m struck dumb, As what I’m writing joins the conversation, And I realise my foolish procrastination, Make some food and dry the dishes, See to the children, grant their wishes, I must do this; I’ll just do that, Feed the fence and paint the cat? I’m getting muddled! I…

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To newsletter or not to newsletter

Posted on Dec 1st, 2013 - 21 Comments

I've been struggling with the idea of a newsletter. In general, I don't like them. Also, I often don't like the sign up process. I get the why and how of the whole thing, and I can't blame people for using something that really works. I just don't want to do it. But I do want a list. I want to be able to tell people stuff like: I have a new free e-course and you can sign up for it. New exercise, want to give it a try? I'm trying out some new coaching and you can try it out for a nice price. Look at this great resource I've found. Things like that. By writing this, I think I have figured out how to do it. I'll start by looking for a good name for my list. I want a name that expresses both value (I want to share valuable things) and benefit (some stuff will not be…

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Get rid of your procrastination for good? No way!

Posted on Nov 26th, 2013 - 18 Comments

Please, please please don't believe any article or method that tells you they have the cure for procrastination. Or that you can end it for good if you follow these four tips. Or the 'How to end procrastination for good' articles. That's just not how it works. As any of the authors of famous books on procrastinaton will tell you... Which is an interesting challenge from a marketing perspective. Sentences like this will not lead to many new clients: Procrastination coaching may help you procrastinate less. Procrastination coaching will probably help you procrastinate less. If you do the work involved. Procrastination coaching could help you procrastinate less, provided it's not therapy that you actually need. Yet, I refuse to make false promises. Any good coach will tell…

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Watch out with YouTube…

Posted on Nov 21st, 2013 - 3 Comments

If you have an accent like me, and post stuff on YouTube, you may want to look for the captions setting. If such a thing exists. I'll have a look in a minute. I thank Dixie Nichols from Handmade Lives for this discovery. She posted about my fees on Facebook, and added "If you think that is bizarre try it with the captions on". To be honest, I've been too embarrassed to do that yet. I'm first taking in my leanings from this incident: I need to check my own videos after a while, even when I'm uncomfortable watching them (amateur stuff, you know). One commenter actually believed that I think I can cure procrastination by saying "just do it". Which I don't believe in at all. Which means my video sends the wrong message. Still digesting the feedback 'bonkers'  and 'weird' 😉 Don't…

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I will procrastinate on charity no more

Posted on Nov 15th, 2013 - 4 Comments

Making a Kiva loan is something I've procrastinated on for years. I don't have a clue why. I thought it was brilliant from the start. I had the money, and I know the micro loans system is changing the world person by person. I needed one of my own productivity experiments to finally make my first loan. I chose it as a reward for me, to reward myself for finishing something I had procastinated on. But... even after I'd deserved my reward, it took me months to make that first loan. It was only when a facebook friend posted a link that I finally did it. Apparently I needed a clickable link before I took that first step. Ouch. I will not let that happen again. Today, as I went for a walk, I realised I can easily decide when to make my next loan. Each time a new client signs up for my…

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Irritate yourself into productivity

Posted on Nov 14th, 2013 - 0 Comments

Most days I prefer a gentle approach to procrastination. Going to the core of what's goin on, and taking it from there. But some days I just want action and progress, without too much thinking. When you notice it's one of those days, you may want to try this technique. Irritating yourself into productivity. I don't mean by beating yourself up or anything that attacks your feeling of self worth. That's a no go. Think about an outside thing that really irritates you? For me it's music I don't like. That winds me up completely. My experiment was to fill my procrastination time with music I don't like at all. I was ready to write this blog in no time! I put on this anti procrastination song, which is called... anti procrastination song. Since I like the original, I played this…

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Feedback for my free e-course on procrastination

Posted on Nov 7th, 2013 - 2 Comments

What a joy to read the feedback for my free e-course!   * Many many thanks for this free course! I will do it again to get maximum results. Wishing you much success with your business and hopefully you can sell this course a lot! Much love from Silke * Thank you for your down to earth way of speaking to us. * Thanks, I now realize I can make a change if I put in the effort. Especially my frog-eating has improved, I have to keep on working on the planning and the chunks. * I loved loved getting the emails.  It reminded me to take a moment that day and work on my bad habits 🙂 * I think the course was very gently paced and I was very happy about that. I enjoy when things are a bit more detailed like offering to look at ourselves but I feel that for that you might need…

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Why do we procrastinate?

Posted on Oct 16th, 2013 - 17 Comments

The last book I read mentioned fourteen possible causes. It seems a miracle that we get anything done at all! I'm not going to list those fourteen, at  least not now. There's a more pressing issue. I quote*: “Until you can see the function that procrastination serves in your life, you'll probably put off trying our techniques.” For me, this is the bigger WHY. What do we gain by procrastination, on a level we don't even think about? Or, when we think about it, is hard to grasp. Because it seems so irrational. And it is. Some examples: Fear of failure (hidden thoughts telling you that failing equals losing self-worth) Fear of success (hidden thoughts that claim success is dangerous in some way, or 'just not for me') The battle for control (you may be resisting…

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Free e-course

Posted on Oct 11th, 2013 - 0 Comments

I'm thrilled to announce you can sign up now for my free e-course:  From do it later to do it now in 9 days Create a helpful mindset around procrastination and get results NOW! It's here:…

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Rewards help you to stop procrastinating

Posted on Oct 2nd, 2013 - 13 Comments

I'm doing an inventory of things that people can use to reward themselves. Because research has shown that rewards really help. So I though I'd turn it into an exercise. This way you get some support (if you need it) and I get loads of ideas 🙂 Here's the exercise: Think about three things you procrastinate on. Think about a reward for each one, for after you've finished the part you can be working on this day/week. Share your rewards in a reply to this post. If you don't want to do the exercise but have ideas anyway, they are very…

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New look, what do you think?

Posted on Sep 18th, 2013 - 9 Comments

I would have loved to procrastinate on publishing the new look of my blog. Somehow it's scary to bring it out into the open, even though people have liked it in the design phase. You know what? It isn't perfect yet... It might not even become perfect, ever... Ouch! But, to be honest, I jumped with joy when I saw the colourful design. The old blog was black and white, because I really like simplicity. If you like, have a look and compare: http://procrastinationcoach.wordpress.com/ Now there's this. It's supposed to send a message about what working with me is like. About who I am when you work with me. I am too action oriented to wait until it's perfect, even as a (recovering) perfectionist. Which also means I have the chance to ask you for feedback. Any feedback is welcome, for…

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Why I do what I do

Posted on Aug 21st, 2013 - 4 Comments

I hope you're not seasick after watching this 🙂 Now why post such an imperfect video? It was an unprepared test of my camera, never meant to be seen by anybody but me. And I realised I'll probably never be more natural in front of a camera then I was that day. So it's not perfect, but it's showing who I am... Pleased to meet you,…

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Are you procrastinating? Freeze!

Posted on Jul 24th, 2013 - 8 Comments

I had a bad case of procrastination going on these last two months. A simple chore, that I normally like: sending invoices. I had no idea why this suddenly was in my procrastination zone. But it was. Naturally, I felt incredibly stupid. A procrastination coach who procrastinates... I even managed to not try out any of my own techniques. (Which makes sense, in a way, because I knew they would have worked 🙂 ) The one I avoided the most, was the freeze technique. It's simple and incredibly effective - if you are willing to have the discipline to do it. Willing indeed. For you need willpower for this. So if you feel you have no willpower today, don't read any further, it will be countereffective. Here we go, for whoever is willing to give it a try... The freeze technique! 1)…

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Searching for images on procrastination

Posted on Jun 26th, 2013 - 11 Comments

I'm doing work on my website and blog, helped by the wonderful, knowledgeable (and fast) Lisa Cole from http://www.nakedwebsite.co.uk/ We're brainstorming images for my website, images that people link to procrastination. I'm not really good at that... I'm looking for images that YOU (real people, daily life people) associate with procrastination. I'm not looking for the kind of jokes or images that turn up when you Google. Any thoughts? Suggestions? Or if you are creative: any examples of your creative work that would be suitable? I prefer original over perfect, just so you know... I could link to your page or buy the image if I can afford your…

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Productivity tips for perceivers

Posted on May 20th, 2013 - 3 Comments

If you're getting desperate about your relationship with planning and to do lists, they just might not fit your personality type... Planning and to do lists do not suit everybody I just read an article that links productivity with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. It explains how working in a structured way is great for people who have a preference for the lifestyle called 'judging'. And how it's not so great for people who prefer the lifestyle called 'perceiving'. The article has handy tips for creating a productivity style that may suit you better if you're a perceiver. It's short and practical, and I recommend clicking here to read it. Do it YOUR way To increase your happiness and feel good about yourself: do things your way when you can, and the structured way only when you need…

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What if we’re working on the wrong things?

Posted on May 1st, 2013 - 1 Comment

This video made me think - a lot. It's long, but it's worth watching. If you can't find the time, or don't want to procrastinate, I'll share something of her message with you below this video. Jane challenges To do lists, claiming that they hardly ever have meaningful stuff on it that makes us happy. Based on scientific research on happiness, she suggests working on PERMA instead. PERMA stand for: Positive Emotions Relationships Meaning Accomplishments It made me wonder: how much of the stuff that I'm procrastinating on is not related to any of these letters? And when it's fear that causes my procrastination, how can I use those letters to overcome it? I'm going to find out more about all this by experimenting with it in the Facebook group called Productivity…

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Change…

Posted on Apr 12th, 2013 - 1 Comment

Reblogged from Author Kristen Hope Mazzola: Here I stand Waiting and wanting Change is dangling from my hand I beg to make a fist My muscles wont respond Everything seems close but far My lungs let out a silent scream Victory is mine Only if I could want it Step forward Now leap Just once, just leap But here I stand Waiting and wanting Where nothing will change I'm sharing this poem because I think so many people know this feeling (but hardly anybody voices it, especially not in this eloquent…

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Self care against procrastination

Posted on Mar 27th, 2013 - 4 Comments

Lately I noticed all the productivity techniques in the world couldn't help me. I just did NOT want to do what I had to do anymore. Not even the work I love (well, to be honest, except for coaching calls because I absolutely always like to coach). I've said it before, and I'll say it again: listen to what your procrastination is trying to tell you. Listen closely. You might not agree with it, and there's no reason you should oblige. But there can be a valuable message in there. Mine was: you need to rest. What helpful message is hidden in your most recent form of procrastination? The reply button is situated at the top of this post. (I'm off to the park now...…

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Challenge: can you take five?

Posted on Mar 18th, 2013 - 3 Comments

What I'm asking of you is at least 5 minutes of your time -for as many days in a row as you dare to promise. What do you seriously procrastinate on? Think of a wish or task that's always there... That always should be done, but that never gets done. At least not the way it deserves to be done. If you've been working with the Pomodoro technique or frogs: you're probably looking for something that's worse than a frog, and you didn't even consider to put on your Pomodori list. Or it was the thing that never got done even though you used those techniques. It may be an Unfinished Art Project, the Worst Administrative Chore of all times, that closet you can never get out of because you don't even want to look into it, contacting that long lost friend or family member, something you think is…

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Should you feel shame when you’re procrastinating?

Posted on Mar 12th, 2013 - 6 Comments

One thing I've noticed since I started Procrastination Coach, is that everybody procrastinates. Some seldom, some often. Some have their lives devoured by it, for others it's just a slight nuisance. But everybody knows what procrastination is, and has experienced it first hand. Feelings about procrastination I feel the need to stress this, because of the second thing I noticed: that so many people are embarrassed about it. Ashamed. Or angry with themselves. They think it's stupid to procrastinate, and feel stupid for doing it. They have self blame going on: "I should be able to not do this. I should be able to control myself more, I should be...". Causes of procrastination If you're one of those people, I may have good news for you. Procrastination has many different roots. Like…

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Discover when you procrastinate, and why

Posted on Mar 4th, 2013 - 7 Comments

Create a procrastination jar (or box, or piggy bank, something that looks nice). Every time you procrastinate, you write down the reason for it as soon as you realise it. Add the time, and the activity you should be working on. Put the piece of paper in the jar. After a week, sit down and look at your notes. Can you discern a pattern? Maybe the time of day, or specific activities. Analyse what you see, and get ready for week 2. In week 2 you do the same, but you add another layer. You write down what's going on in your mind, and what's going on in your body. For example thoughts, like 'I don't exactly know how I'm supposed to do this'. Or sensations in your body, like being tired or feeling in need of some fresh air. After a week, sit down and look at your notes. Can you…

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What does procrastination look like?

Posted on Feb 25th, 2013 - 10 Comments

You know how monsters lurk under the bed, in the dark? And you know how to get rid of them? Right. If you want to beat your procrastination monster, you need to get to know it. Know it really well. What does your procrastination monster look like? Where does it live? How? What does it feed on? What are it's favourite tv programs? What are it's hobbies? What are it's fears? What dirty little secrets does it have? And so on. You can draw, write, do anything that might make this subject more fun than depressing. I would love to see some pictures of your monsters here. Blind them with all the light you shine on…

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A procrastinator’s trap when eating frogs…

Posted on Feb 19th, 2013 - 5 Comments

Well, I guess I should've seen it coming. Maybe you're smarter than me and notice it straight away. Here's how it went. We were doing great on our productivity experiments. I'd eaten several frogs the day before, and was ready for a big one. This is what I wrote on the Facebook page: "Mine's a biggie, it's been growing for months. It'll be gone for noon, that's my promise." My task looked a little like this: After posting my message, I got to work. I did a little something of this, and a little something of that. I kept thinking of what I should be doing instead. Dreading it, because... well, you can see what this frog looked like. Finally, when it was almost noon, I jumped from my chair. I got working on my frog, fast. And I did it! The frog was gone before noon. It turned out to be…

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Rewards stop procrastination

Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 - 16 Comments

A typical reaction to eating a frog is this: I'm STUPID. I could have done this ages ago. I SHOULD have done this ages ago! It looks like internal shouting. And it is. A punitive voice that tells you you're no good. Again.. Criticism doesn't work Emotion lies behind every almost form of procrastination. Fear of failure and fear of not being good enough are common examples. What the critical voice does, is feed these fears. It takes a success you've just created, and turns it into proof that you're a quack. Inner berating leads to more procrastination, not less. Reward yourself Each time you get something done that you procrastinated on, reward yourself. Acknowledge yourself for getting over yourself. Celebrate that YOU DID IT. Create physical rewards: a nice cup of coffee of…

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Eat the frog

Posted on Feb 6th, 2013 - 10 Comments

I'm having loads of fun with my new Facebook group, called htts://www.facebook.com/groups/productivityexperiments/  I started the group because each time I saw an interesting method, my response was the same: interesting, I should try that out one time. But I never did... So now the group is experimenting with a classic called Eat the frog. It comes down to identifying the thing on your to do list that your most likely to procrastinate on, and do that first. I'll include a link to a brilliant video about it at the bottom of this page. First the results. The good thing is, it works! Several people in the group got things done that they normally don't, and a few of us had a lot more fun of doing it by being in this group. Some drawbacks too... I identified a load of frogs, and…

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The dreaded New Year’s question…

Posted on Dec 12th, 2012 - 2 Comments

I've never been one for New Year's Eve. I don't understand why January 1 is supposed to be different from December 31. And the party always comes with the dreaded question: what are your New Year's resolutions? I don't know about you, but setting New Year's resolutions always gets me worried that I will fail. Apparently rightly so, when you read this article. And yet, I feel the lure of the calendar: yes, it's a new year coming. A time unit that will have it's own story, when I give it a chance. And I know that I can influence that story, by creating it. So, if you were to create your own story for the next year, how would you go about doing that? I'd love to hear what inspires you most, throug my poll. What I'd love even more, is when you reply to this post and share your…

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